Heard it from a friend who heard it from a friend who...
How much credence do you give to something a friend thought he heard from another friend after 7 hours of drinking wine? What if friend 1, who told friend 2, who told friend 3 what friend 1 said missed a crucial word that would create a vast difference in meaning? Would you discount the entire thing and chalk it up to drunken discussion that should be filed away and never opened again? Or would you stew about it and believe friend 2's version of what friend 1 said, which would effectively damage your opinion of friend 1 forever and ruin a good friendship as well as business relationship?
Such a dilemma has haunted hubby all week long, causing him to be withdrawn at home. He even slept on the sofa the other night because his mind was so wrapped up in trying to digest the information, justify it, go through past conversations with friend 1 and try to find clues to such behavior. I thought he slept on the sofa to show me how it felt when I sleep in another room because his snoring was too loud. It did work on me that way, so he at least will reap some benefit from that.
He finally opened up and told me about it yesterday. I was floored and I am not sure I believe the friend 2's version of it. I truly believe friend 2 left out a crucial word. Based on what I know and think about friend 1 versus friend 2 and their relative states of intoxication, as I was the one entirely sober person at our house last Sat night, I tend to discredit the story. Fortunately, I was able to think of a past example to support my thoughts. I told hubby of this example and he remembered it as well, as he was involved and I had merely heard it from him.
So, hopefully, hubby will be able to digest this and put it behind him. But it has made us wonder - are we really very conservative and jealous people who would not even begin to entertain the things of which friend 1 and his wife were allegedly participants or are we normal and they are the ones who are living on the edge of crazy?
The one thing that has come of the past 5 days since Saturday night is that I have come to realize that in the 5 years we have been married, I have grown to be confident of myself and trusting of my husband. It was not always this way. We have come a long way in the past 22 months. Both of us have grown and matured and respect each other more than ever.
Happy Anniversary, sweetheart. I love you and cannot imagine a world in which you do not share my life.
How much credence do you give to something a friend thought he heard from another friend after 7 hours of drinking wine? What if friend 1, who told friend 2, who told friend 3 what friend 1 said missed a crucial word that would create a vast difference in meaning? Would you discount the entire thing and chalk it up to drunken discussion that should be filed away and never opened again? Or would you stew about it and believe friend 2's version of what friend 1 said, which would effectively damage your opinion of friend 1 forever and ruin a good friendship as well as business relationship?
Such a dilemma has haunted hubby all week long, causing him to be withdrawn at home. He even slept on the sofa the other night because his mind was so wrapped up in trying to digest the information, justify it, go through past conversations with friend 1 and try to find clues to such behavior. I thought he slept on the sofa to show me how it felt when I sleep in another room because his snoring was too loud. It did work on me that way, so he at least will reap some benefit from that.
He finally opened up and told me about it yesterday. I was floored and I am not sure I believe the friend 2's version of it. I truly believe friend 2 left out a crucial word. Based on what I know and think about friend 1 versus friend 2 and their relative states of intoxication, as I was the one entirely sober person at our house last Sat night, I tend to discredit the story. Fortunately, I was able to think of a past example to support my thoughts. I told hubby of this example and he remembered it as well, as he was involved and I had merely heard it from him.
So, hopefully, hubby will be able to digest this and put it behind him. But it has made us wonder - are we really very conservative and jealous people who would not even begin to entertain the things of which friend 1 and his wife were allegedly participants or are we normal and they are the ones who are living on the edge of crazy?
The one thing that has come of the past 5 days since Saturday night is that I have come to realize that in the 5 years we have been married, I have grown to be confident of myself and trusting of my husband. It was not always this way. We have come a long way in the past 22 months. Both of us have grown and matured and respect each other more than ever.
Happy Anniversary, sweetheart. I love you and cannot imagine a world in which you do not share my life.
3 Comments:
Happy, HAPPY, anniversary!!! I hope all is well with friend one and friend two. I couldn't help but think of "thing one" and "thing two" from Dr. Suess while reading this!!!
Happy anniversary to you and the hubs!
Hope everything with the friends is worked out too. Alcohol can do crazy things to people.
Liz
Happy aniversary!! Hope all is OK with the friends.
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