The Villain
Every family has a that one person who says exactly what is on his mind, who dares to demand more from each of us individually, who brings the best and sometimes the worst out of each of us. With my in-laws, that person is my husband.
Because of the mostly family-owned business, we spend a lot of time together - my father in law, my brother-in-law (hubby's sister's husband), my sister-in-law, my hubby's cousin. From time to time, tears are shed and I have been known to quit once. Last January, I truly did quit. I was packing up my office when my FIL talked me out of it. Things have been much better since then, mostly because I took myself away from things that were distracting me from my work.
However, this is not about me. This is about the villain, my hubby.
Apparently when he demands more than we have given, he is asking too much. When his demands are turned on someone other than me, I usually get a call from my mother-in-law to ask about it. In this case, today, she calls me with news that floored me. Apparently, my hubby fired his brother in law today. She was in tears. I was stunned.
I ask hubby if it is true. He asks, is what true. I say, Shane. He says, what about him. He is not deliberately obtuse. He seriously did not know what I meant. I said, your mom called me crying and saying that you fired Shane this morning. Then he replies, well if that is how he chooses to perceive it. Yes, hubby would have made an excellent attorney.
Come to find out, he had simply talked to Shane about quality, career goals, etc. Shane needs to do some thinking on his own and uncover exactly what he wants out of life. He is good at what he does, but he needs to bring it to another level.
As I left hubby's office, he was calling his mom. I have no idea how that conversation went. I am so glad I left. He is going to take a day off tomorrow.
I hate to see him in this position and I hate to see him mentally beat. It's unusual. He is a high energy, take no prisoners type of person and when that type of person is tired, he is tired to the bone and emotionally spent.
He's no villain, he's my husband.
Because of the mostly family-owned business, we spend a lot of time together - my father in law, my brother-in-law (hubby's sister's husband), my sister-in-law, my hubby's cousin. From time to time, tears are shed and I have been known to quit once. Last January, I truly did quit. I was packing up my office when my FIL talked me out of it. Things have been much better since then, mostly because I took myself away from things that were distracting me from my work.
However, this is not about me. This is about the villain, my hubby.
Apparently when he demands more than we have given, he is asking too much. When his demands are turned on someone other than me, I usually get a call from my mother-in-law to ask about it. In this case, today, she calls me with news that floored me. Apparently, my hubby fired his brother in law today. She was in tears. I was stunned.
I ask hubby if it is true. He asks, is what true. I say, Shane. He says, what about him. He is not deliberately obtuse. He seriously did not know what I meant. I said, your mom called me crying and saying that you fired Shane this morning. Then he replies, well if that is how he chooses to perceive it. Yes, hubby would have made an excellent attorney.
Come to find out, he had simply talked to Shane about quality, career goals, etc. Shane needs to do some thinking on his own and uncover exactly what he wants out of life. He is good at what he does, but he needs to bring it to another level.
As I left hubby's office, he was calling his mom. I have no idea how that conversation went. I am so glad I left. He is going to take a day off tomorrow.
I hate to see him in this position and I hate to see him mentally beat. It's unusual. He is a high energy, take no prisoners type of person and when that type of person is tired, he is tired to the bone and emotionally spent.
He's no villain, he's my husband.
5 Comments:
Working with family sucks.
'Nuff said.
Whew, that sounds rough. Sorry, chica.
Complicated...hope it all works out for the best.
Ditto. Ditto. Ditto. As much as I love my sister/secretary there are times when I wonder what the hell I was thinking in hiring her. On the other hand, she would never, ever rip me off but even if she did - I know where she she lives and her kids would gladly give me the key to her house even if she changed the locks. Definitely not easy.
Eeks. Doesn't sound easy.
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